KG-Thank you for your continuous support and love. I guess sometimes sadness has to be a part of this trip sometimes. :-) How are you doing?
labug-Really, thank you. What you said has been really profound to me about being true to myself. I have been so afraid for so long in this respect.
LITB-You always come by when needed. Thank you of your encouragement and support as always. From the start you have helped me see things differently and continue to move forward.
Tori-Thank you of your kind words. To answer your question. H has talked (threatened?) D in the past 2+ years. He blamed his EA/PA on me because I didn't D him...or agree to D him.
This summer, he sent an email (the date in my timeline) to my dad saying he wanted to proceed with D. I took that as the first 'real' step for him doing it. I spoke to him afterwards and told him I don't agree but accept if thats what he wants. I told him I am giving him this just give me some time. (lots more but won't go into it).
Anyway, he brought it up a few more times after that (remarkably after 'incidents' of OW being involved), and gave me promises of how this is the best thing for us all and how him and I will have such a great R afterwards.....anyway, he hasn't brought it up since Sep. I use the time to work on myself and prepare for when he does bring it up again. I was SURE that he was going to bring it up again after he got back from his last trip with OW but he didn't. He brought up the Dubai move instead. I am starting to think OW is part of that too.
Tumbling-My commando picnic sister! Where have you been??? Boundaries are indeed a most empowering thing we can do for ourselves. I did not realize this until very recently. Its really difficult at first though isn't it? Fear of coming across b!tchy or mean or selfish and then making people mad. But its not like that as Labug said. Its not about being rude. Its justing stating in a loving way. I hope to hear how you are doing very soon.
SS, afa, Breakdown and UF-Thank you for your posts and supportive words. You all help keep me motivated and encouraged to continue on this path. Sometimes I can't see myself. and when you point things out I get a whole knew perspective and renewed energy.
((((( ))))) Love to all.
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
