Thank you for your responses. I am rushed for time right now but will return to mull and ponder ASAP.
Cat,
good to see you again. (My calico returned a couple days ago, it actually prompted me to wonder if you too were due for an appearance lol.)
I am continuing to look for a different or second job. A lot of my dissatisfaction with the fast food job is me beating myself up for bad choices 20+ years ago.
RE: stating your case...
Is this what you suggest I do then?
I am sorry to hear about your Aunt & Uncle. Marital troubles are painful from both the inside and the outside it would seem.
A beautiful laundry room.... lol. I see what you are saying, to find something that fulfills me, and that the something doesn't have to be a "step" towards anything more than delivering what makes me feel good. (Personally, I would like to set fire to my laundry room.... but that's prob not really advisable.)
Right now the only goal I have is to get through to the new year without further disruption to the kids. They are aware in varying degrees that something is up. While the days pass by I have a feeling that I will begin to see some sign posts as to where I want to head.
Cadet,
What exactly do you mean by rope?
IDK to take this as throw caution to the wind and tell H what "rules" I have to set for my own sanity - even if this results in him leaving or making me leave? (The rope here being one of dependency...)
I have not been "begging, pleading, bargaining" that I know of. I don't ask H to stay. I suppose by allowing/following what "rules" he has set could be construed as "bargaining" maybe?
But re: the "waiting", isn't that sort of what a lot of DB is about? Isn't that what Snodderly advised? (I realize each of you could/would have dif opinions/interpretations of how to best DB)
Perhaps I am just to dense to correctly decode the symbolism.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
