Your posts all come off sounding like a big joke, like you're just coming here for giggles. I apologize if that's not the case, but if you really are here for serious reasons then you have got to stop being so flippant about the advice you're getting and about the DB approach. When you say things like you can't buy a 10.00 book because your W didn't give you your allowance, then you went out and bought it but were too tired to read it so watched a football game instead, well it comes off as you either being incredibly lazy about saving your M or as a jokester that's just making fun of DB'ing.
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I'm sorry I'm hurting and confused and don't want this to be it. My therapist told me that DB was a counterproductive technique to getting back my marriage.
Did he say "counterproductive" or "counterintuitive"? It is the latter, not the former.
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I believe him for a long time because I was paying good money to him.
See, this is the kind of comment that makes me think you're joking. You believed him because you were paying him good money? So that's your litmus test to determine the quality of an IC?
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I'm scared to read the book again honestly, because I see so many stories around here and almost no marriages are saved.
Unfortunately not all the links are active because some of the threads are quite old, but there's enough active links in there to keep you reading for quite a while. There are some newer success stories in the piecing forum that aren't included in the above, so look there too.
