Subguy, your posting about how putting the focus on yourself will help you, helped me too. Thank you. Detaching emotionally from someone who pretty much has been with you your whole life, and who you thought would be with you for the rest of your life is one of the hardest things we'll ever encounter. When a spouse dies, it's awful, but at least the survivor knows his or her spouse loved them till the end, and that it's over for good. With these sitchs, it's very different. Our S's are out there, behaving like strangers, and we have no control over anything except for ourselves. ((((((())))))
