Terry, there is no way to answer those questions today. Yeah, she's mixed up right now, and you're in depression, but where will you and her be a few months from now?

My advice is give it some time. Don't worry about the long term answers right now, just focus on you and D today. Let some time go by before you decide to give up on your wife. There really is no good reason to rush this.

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl