You know all this but really need to 100% live by it:
(1) Don't snoop again (2) GAL - I mean it. Try to get her out of your mind as much as you can and start doing things YOU enjoy. Get a hobby, read, workout, do something... (3) GAL part 2 - Reconnect with friends, go out. To clarify I mean same sex friends because the opposite sex could easily lead to more problems (4) Don't pursue or initiate (5) Read these everyday (or even better before any contact with W) until you can recite them: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2250607#Post2250607 (6) I would also stop talking to W's friends about sitch. Only a matter of time before something gets back to her and I doubt she'll think kindly of you talking with her friends. Many of my close friends are also friends with W and I don't talk about our sitch with them at all even though they are supporting R and not D. (7) Don't lose hope but keep expectations in check.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
