I don't understand, is there something I'm doing to prevent him from this walking?
You may not like what I am going to say, but take it or not.
The LBS leads the way in this journey, don't ask me why it works this way but it does. It was something that I really struggled to understand how something that I did or did not do could even have any effect. But it does work this way. And it is all counterintuitive, so that leading may not be what you are thinking. You have to get out of the way, and drop the rope. That is leading. Not begging, pleading, bargaining and waiting.
Go back and re-read the stages of the LBS. They resemble the stages of grief and there is no avoiding them
