In crisis -BIG MESS-help

[Brahmin]

Thanks bruce for the reply, I am looking at my contribution and my patterns of dealing conflicts with my W. I just compiled a letter to my W to request her and clarify my position with my Son. I am asking for equal share.
In the Christmas party she seem to just avoid looking and making eye contact while I was infront of her with our 2 friends and S. I was happy to see all of them, I was kind of apprehensive to start a conversation. She was avoiding a conversation.
It is this issue W has that I don't have a good relation with her mom and I don't call her. I was thinking I would just take my pride and ego off and call her and remove any misunderstanding or resentment or just ask her to forgive me if I unknowingly or knowingly showed pride and arrogance. I am not expecting any huge changes in our path due to this but it will clear with both that I am not holding my ego and not talking to her mom. I havnt called her since S, my dad and mom called and spoke to her for long, at this point she says it's all upto my daughter. She was supposed to move in with my W but she is still not moved,she was retiring by oct end or nov.