I agree with the you Sandi2, yesterday was hard I waited all day for a phone call, would of been happy with just a text saying hi but i got nothing, so now I wait.... I am returning back from work in a few days, but have not told her. I am waiting for her to ask me. But i do not think she will. I am coming to realize that we are no longer a couple and I am no longer part of her life. And the hurts. I know she will not come home because we are selling our house,(may I add a house that she wanted, she does want be there anymore because it is not a "cool" place, that is what she told me) Anyway.. I need to stop thinking like that. I am struggle to change myself, my family has been very supportive trying to keep my mind off my W, (they all miss her too) My therapist, who has been very helpful, has told me that I should see a psychiatrists, because I to have a very negative view on the world and seem to very depressed, (She told me that it is very self centered to think that things that are out of my control happen to me because of "me", which was a kind of a shock to me because I never saw myself as self-centered, but this is something I am looking into and does affect my confidence as a person, I am trying to change that view.) I will wait to she if she calls me and I will listen to what she has to say, if she is willing to see the therapist again great. But I do not want her to do it for me, I want her to do it for us, just need to wait and see I need to stop wondering about what she is doing and who she is with, I know that will help me in my day to day life.