First of all, at my yesterday's visit, my W was acting unusually nice. Normally, I only get one visit on week-ends, but we missed the one on Thursdays, so I had another one today. At the end of today's visit, W says : I drop the divorce if you drop the counter-petition
Because I was putting my son in the back seat, I said I couldn't answer just like that and went to the passenger seat. Then I said that I loved my son, and wanted to bond with him, teach him French, change his diapers, get involved in his life, etc.. she replied she thought I was ok with the schedules for the visits. (exactly like 25yearsmic said!) I said the only reason I delayed pushing sooner was because I knew our son was in good hands because she was a terrific mom.
Also she said something about working things slowly between us, but I wasn't paying attention, I mean my mind was spinning at 200 mph. I said I needed time.
Then she said : is it yes or no ?
I said, it is yes, (of course, I want to avoid D), but if she wanted to go to a counselor, that'd be a good time. She said she'd think about it.
Now, what do you think about it?
- Sincere? - Tactic to win time till June when she can apply for D, and even possibly play the card of the "why break the pattern for the child so give it to me 100%" - Just fear of losing as soon as next week 50% of her son?
And most importantly, how do I play it now? Ask for more visits? Not ask anything? Hint for her to go to counselling? Not hint anything? Suggest she moved to my place, or too early? Ask her out one evening? Ask her if she wants to come watch a movie at home, or is this too pushy too fast?
Me:34 ; W:28 Son: almost 2. Married : 14 March 2009 DBomb : 18 June 2012 Separated since Jan 2012 (different countries) Same country and city since July 2012
