I did the usual listen and validate, but also "felt" it was a right time to toss out some truth darts, such as if she was staying for just the kids until they reached the "magic age" where she could leave, then she was using me, and I did not think she was that kind of person. Also, that I believed in her, in us and if I didn't, I would not have allowed myself to be treated like a doormat, etc., this past year and a half. Naturally, this wasn't what she wanted to hear, but I stuck to my guns patiently and most important, non-judgmentally. Brought in some mlc examples which re-assured her that this was part of the process and can pass....
For me, it felt good to be honest, and it seemed to open things up a wee bit more for us this weekend...no bad repercussions so far.
I like that you are opening up with the truth to her, and happy to hear she seems to be accepting it. It sounds like you're on course to me, I'm just taking notes here.
Is she OM free? If yes, for how long?
I read all (or most) of your threads but with all the other threads I read I get 'em mixed up. Why don't you have your sitch timeline in your sig, like the rest of us diligent DB'ers? haha
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
