trying to save my marriage Phase 2

[Dm45]

So whenever H and I are discussing anything to do with the house, I always say "our". Our bedroom, our bathroom, our home, etc. And when his "current home" (with the OW) is brought up I simply say "where you are living". I refuse to call it his "home".

Me too!
I know in communication, everything counts, including word choice, tone, pacing, body language... In my sitch, I speak this way because I am speaking "as if" she is coming back. But I also wonder, as you, what would W think if I spoke differently?

I know choosing different words would probably trigger "something" different, but don't know what?

I'd like to hear some of the experts' opinions as well...