Sorry to hijack your thread but I have something I want to run by you.
You mentioned your W moved out 3 months ago, which is pretty close to my sitchs timeline. You also mentioned almost dropping the rope, which I've considered a couple of times myself.
In retrospect I realize I kind off dropped the rope already before BD, at least I presume that is what she felt.
The thing is, when I spend time with my X I can look at her and a lot of the time I wonder "do I truly love her enough?". Quite often I feel no strong need to hug or kiss her.
It makes me wonder if my feelings for her are strong enough. I have a strong sense of loss and I miss her, but b/c of what I mention above I wonder
-do I miss her spesifically or -do I miss the package deal. Being a family. Being with someone. More so now, when christmas is coming up. My question is, do you feel the same way with your W from time to time? Is it a common feeling to have in this situation.
I guess you and your W have a somewhat platonic R as well, and maybe that contributes to feeling detached, even though the feelings are still there. Makes sense?
Together for 8,5 years. S2 Interest in OM. She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out. No signs of OM, not digging. Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.
