I also gathered some information from a close friend of my wife and I. He spoke with her, and he feels the situation is basically what I suspected. She has felt empty and alone in our relationship for years and ended up falling out of love, plain and simple. I did not give her the nurturing that she needed. She says she needs space and time (which I need to give her more now than ever) to figure things out. She is also dealing with some of her own demons (not exactly sure what those are, but likely lifelong trust issues or insecurities). She is still not sure if she can or will want to reconcile. At this point her answer is no, but she did say that things could change. I find a little hope in that. She said the only way she will come back to me is if she wants to. This is exactly what everyone has been preaching to me, and I now get it. One thing that concerns me is she expressed that she has to have the feeling of love before she can return to me. I struggle with that because I think that love is something that needs to be initiated, prodded and helped along a little. It is not something that will just magically happen one day....maybe I am wrong
