You fear question. As I need less and am feeling more confident, I'm having less fear. Fear isn't a real emotion. It is a response to outside stimuli that attacks our sense of safety. The more safe I feel with myself, the less fear I feel.
I'm actually not afraid of losing my wife. I just don't want to. My best emotion, love, is deeply felt for her. My fear of everything else in the world, became my priority, when I should have kept my wife as my priority. I thought Ineeded to succeed to keep my wife and make her happy. Every failure threatened that.
The sad thing is I had my wife, and there was no threat to that, except my screwed up beliefs that our happiness was dependant on something outside the two of us.
