I spoke with the OM again this morning. Their situation seems genuinely innocent at this point. However, I know how things work, and I know that their "friendship" is not good for my marriage. This could easily turn into something more than just leaning on each others shoulders. If anything, it gives my wife a view at the grass being greener on the other side of the fence. Here is this nice guy, going through a tough time of his own, sharing his feelings and being very nice and understanding to my wife. It's not a good scenario. He was originally shocked that I suspicion anything would be going on, but then he really began to see my perspective on their friendship when I laid it all out. He agrees that completely pulling away from her would raise suspicion. I asked him to do it in a way that hopefully leaves me out of the equation. He said he would come up with a solution, and he did not want to add any stress to our situation. He wants his own wife back, and he wants me to have mine. I am placing a lot of trust in him. I hope it doesn't come back to bite me.
