Husband left in September. I need HELP

[DFE]

Hi RegretFul
MC has always made our situation worse. I think because we keep bringing up the past instead of moving forward. Im considering starting DB coaching but its all getting very expensive. I guess its less expensive then him having his own apt.

We are now on a regular schedule where he sees the kids daily either taking them to school or picking them up. Hes actually more involved now than before he left. I thought at first he shouldnt see them regularly just so he knows what Divorced life would be like. I quickly learned that my kids were hurting and that it wasn't fair to them. He wasalso getting very angry and more distant with me becuase he said i was taking away his God given right to be a dad.

I see him at work daily and he acts very normal.

He has also started calling me honey again. Force of habit I guess but nonetheless confusing for me.

I too wish i hadnt been so resistant to the separation and so angry about it. We may have been in a better position then we are now. He has started calling me just to chat as opposed to texting and he's been asking me to go to the gym with him and the kids when he comes over.

He also talked about expanding our leased space today but again cause for confusion. I know he thinks that no matter what we will continue to me business partners which I know I cant be.

He has not discussed our situation in over a month. My fear is he is trying to get me used to this idea so that he can make it perm't and we can continue the work relationship. I don't see how I would heal with him there.

I know everyone says not to ask questions but its so hard. He said the other day that he needs to start taking a salary soon to pay for his apt. That tells me he isnt coming home when is lease ends in 45 days. Patience is hard to have when all I want are answers. And do I make it easy for him to come and go as he pleases with the kids? How will he feel what Divorced life is really like?