hrm, No, you are not stupid for falling for a classic MLC catch phrase. We hear them say it and hope that they mean it. There have been quite a few, myself included, that have heard the phrase and thought "oh, good, he's going to actually work on the marriage and everything will fall into place". I learned very early on when I lived w/him and saw that his behavior didn't change one bit. I pretzeled myself time and again to meeting his ever ending desire for changes in myself. One day, that was it. I wasn't happy w/the changes I was making to make him happy.
You shouldn't feel bad for saying he should feel guilty for what he's doing. He knows better and yet he still chooses to walk the path of least resistance.
One never knows what they purchase and you might be right about an ornament or something small like that. As for the foursome...now that would be something to see and could be a great comedy act for sure. What a fly on the wall would have to say about that one if it should occur! LOL!
I think you have an excellent counselor and even though he doesn't know much about mlc, he is encouraging you to practice the db techniques.
I do hope that things settle down and your holiday season can be better this year. Holidays tend to bring out the crazymaking in them.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
