hrm, Working on stuff is a term that mlcers use. Yeah, they are working on stuff alright...it's one sided...and you are the one that's doing all of the work. I heard that comment a number of times and my xh also told the co-workers that we were working on the marriage...all one sided. The only thing that they are working on is their fun stuff. Don't take the comment seriously at this point in time because it is nothing more than a catch phrase.
As for the tree, I'm glad he at least went and helped you unload it and get it in the house. I'm sure this brings the holidays a bit up close and personal to him and he's going to have issues with the holidays and will scurry back into his hole, i.e., too much guilt involved.
As for the co-worker, his wife and some other woman. What are these people thinking about getting a room? Sounds like they ae going to have a foursome. I sure hope they all use protection. Maybe this is their way of "living out their fantasy"...just very strange to me. I'm very sorry you happened to run across those texts.
As for that little package he keeps hiding and taking away, makes me wonder if it's condoms. Got to share a funny story w/you...my xh was a very stupid little man who left a receipt in a CVS bag and when I did my own detective work and went to CVS and asked my friend in the pharmacy what the receipt was for. He took one look and said "I think your h has been caught" and then took me to the counter where the condoms were sitting. Well, I called him up and had him come by the house and when I asked about them, his comments were that he needed them just in case he was in a bar and met someone. My response was: 1) if you are drunk, you won't get it up and you won't be able to get it in place; and 2) where you planning to blow it up and hang it on your antenne. He just laughed like a stupid fool and looked guilty as h@ll. I've never forgotten that conversation and every time I walk by that product I just laugh now.
I don't think your h thinks your stupid, but he doesn't think you notice things. Your h likes playing games and it's time now to move the toothbrush to see if he'll move it again. Time to ramp up the game just a little bit. You might want to purchase a red or green toothbrush, put a little bow and a sprig of mistletoe on it and put it where the old one is late Christmas Eve. Now, that would be a priceless photo op for sure. I could have a lot of fun w/your h.
Enjoy your day because it's going to be in the high 60's and tomorrow is even better here.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
