I "think" that means she is not even considering the possibility of giving us a chance anymore, or maybe I am reading too much into that?
You are likely correct, she is not considering another chance. That doesn't mean she won't consider it later (months from now), just not now. So don't pressure her about it. For me the clock started at BD, but I recently found out that for my W the clock didn't start until S. So it seems like it's been a long time to me that this has been going on (almost 6 months), but her perception is that it's been too short (2-1/2 months) to sort out yet.
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I have been working on my 180's and trying to be upbeat when we speak. I am also working on myself, dressing nicer, still losing more weight, hanging out with friends. I have been trying not to pursue her, and I am getting much better, but still make the mistake of reaching out and trying to grasp at reconnecting from time to time.
I know what you mean, but believe me, I've been there and it will not give you answers and it will not benefit your sitch.
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Then, I asked if it would be ok if I tagged along.
Ouch. Well hopefully you learned not to invite yourself. It's OK if you plan something with D and invite W along, but don't invite yourself along when W plans it. The idea when inviting W is you're going with or without her. So you say something like "D and I are going to 'x', you're welcome to join us if you wish." Make it clear you're going with or without her, and that you don't really care that much whether she goes or not. That's acceptable under DB'ing, but anything else is pursuit. ESPECIALLY inviting yourself.
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I am still just so confused with what is happening. I realize mistakes I have made and I want so badly to be given that second opportunity to prove myself.
It was confusing for me too, because early after BD W sent signals that made it look like she was working on things. But inwardly she was done, done, done. It wasn't until after W left that I realized the confusion was all mine, she was set on leaving the whole time.
