I'm sorry Ad. I know this is tough stuff, but you seem to be holding you own!
Originally Posted By: adinva
We talked more about child support. I asked him if he knew what it was meant to include, and he said everything related to the child. I said what about sports equipment, braces, summer camp? Yes, yes, and yes, everything. I said, I do not know for sure either but we should both understand what it's intended to include. I had been told that it's calculated to include their basic necessities of life - food, clothing, shelter. It isn't intended to include sports equipment and summer camp. But I'll explore it more and so should he, so he understands what it is that he's paying for. He said, what does it matter...it's all I can afford, and it's all the court says I should pay.
I know this varies, but I have to pay child support plus provide insurance plus pay 50% of the out of pocket expense for medical. Braces are a bit tricky as you can argue over whether they are needed, so I'd get that specifically noted if you think it's going to be an issue. College is similar. It's going to be state dependent I think, but I'd get whatever you can included in the doc.
Outside of that, it sounds to me like your H is slanting most of this to his favor. I have found that most boiler plate documents tend to give the W a lot more benefit than the H, and this seems tilted in his favor, so definitely get your lawyer to provide some guidance.
I don't agree with the bit about repaying his mom and all that. If you two owe her money, you owe 50%, he owes 50%. The house equity is 50%/50%....talk to your attorney about when that clock stops. The cars should be divided based on value, not who drives what.
