I had a major setback this past week. I broke down and phoned my wife, basically threatening divorce and saying that I would not let her take me for all I had. 2 minutes after I hung up I could not believe what I did. I have been kicking myself for that move...stupid destructive behavior.
Oh my god stop this right now. I know you know now you shouldn't have done that but you might have a breakdown again and do similar thing to eventually destroy your possible savable marriage on your own! I've myself passed my desperate self destructive phase and working on myself now but I know I was in your shoes right after my H dropped D on me. As much as your wife needs her space, you really do need your time alone to yourself to think things through. Ever since I started giving my H space, I have so much time just to go to a coffee shop and think, read books and think, go for a walk and think. And let me tell you I've already discovered/noticed so many things I contributed in this marriage to push my H to the edge. I'm a W and also am (or was) hypocritical of things and was very negative about pretty much everything.
I'm telling you. One setback to her feels like a major setback. Do not ever have a setback like this or you might really lose her. I wanted to write this because I'm also rooting for you!
