Anyone else have any other thoughts? Wife is bent on selling home and separating to divorce. Plus take the kids with me only every other weekend and Wednesdays. Says feels 'nothing' for me. She must feel something because it comes across as hate and distain. Says she has never had independence in her life. (a mutual friend told me she said this recently) Her parents were very controlling (European) and gave her and her 2 sisters no freedom. She married me when she was 27 and lived at home until then. Does it really come down to feeling tied down and discovering herself? Can we not be ourselves and individuals in the context of marriage? All I ever asked for was honesty, communication, etiquette and courtesy after her affair. I wanted to build trust. She was unwilling to give that. She is 45. Is this a mid-life? This seems so wrong. The kids are hurting. She is telling people they are fine. They are not.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
