Portia, I honestly don't believe the ow was fighting for your friendship. I think your friend told you that just to keep you on the string. I've heard and seen these types of comments made by mlcers before and it is their way of "conning" us into hanging around. Your friend knows that you would be gone in a heartbeat and he doesn't want to lose that one person who will listen to all of his problems and woes and he knows that he can dump all of his emotional garage on you that he can't on the ow.
I wouldn't return his calls. He needs to make a decision about what he wants and stop stringing you along. He's using you for his emotional fix and as long as you allow him to do so, he will continue doing it. Take back your self respect and allow him to wallow for a bit. He needs to respect you for the fine young lady that you are.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
