But every time the R came up she kept saying she saw no future in it. And as you know she still did move out. So enjoy it, but don't get your hopes up, because even though it may seem like she's trying she may still be cashed out mentally. Have no expectations.
Whoa...this is exactly where I'm at. Daily, things are great, we hang out, ML, do things as a family. Everything is great....except that court date in Jan. And every time R comes up, it's generally her saying she still wants D.
I think the problem is she made a decision and is sticking with it. She refuses to forgive, refuses to take a chance, to become vunerable, so it keeps her from committing to the M.
Originally Posted By: Spartan
Has my W forgotten I'm the one she's wanting to D??? I don't want the F'n D!!! Does she not know what she's putting me through emotionally? She either is tired and had a small lapse in judgement or she's believing my rant a couple weeks ago and thinks I want the D also and am fine with it.
As I'm reading here, it seems like me, you and AS are all on the same ride...it's just that AS is first, I'm in the middle, and you're at the beginning!
I had the same issue with W talking to OM in front of me, and telling me about him. The whole time I was thinking "You do realize that OM has caused a rift in our M don't you? You realize that hearing about him reminds me of all the issues regarding him over the last few years?"
That said, I'm with FY in that her expressing her feelings to you is positive. It's a great opportunity to practice validating without agreeing with the issue.
