It's amazing how often I agree with Snodderly or can totally relate. I have similar stories with my ex. I'm a slower learner than some and it wasn't until long afterwards that I could really see just how messed up she is/was. I can tell you that years later, I see little change from that see-saw, roiling mass of anger and emotion. The facade is back to some degree, but I know too much at this point I come back to these threads hoping to point that kind of stuff out to people going through what I (and others) had. Because if I knew then, what I know now, I would have done some things differently. Changes for her would be one of them. I would have done far less of them if I had truly "gotten it" then like I do now.
I would (and did similar) go to the party. I also wouldn't talk to the OW. She is not the problem. She is a symptom only. Besides, if you are gracious and smile a lot, it makes 'em nervous and makes you the heroine
I'll look forward to the new thread!
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
