Thanks for the advice. Now last light I avoided being around husband and went to bed before him. When he came to bed he wanted to talk about the company christmas party. I had told him I didn't want to go because ow would probably be there. He said he knew that but he got the tickets because he wants me to get over this.He had been telling me for awhile that she had a serious boyfriend. That may be true because I went somewhere where I knew she would be and there was a man with her.
He told me that he is not talking to, or seeing her. But that he did email her at work to see if she and her boyfriend were going and of course they are. He told me that he told her that he does not want to see or talk to her. Now that may be possible because there are about 1500 people attending this thing at a big fancy hotel. He also wants us to stay overnight. At first I was pissed but my DB coach has told me to go and hold my head up high. I am the wife. So last night I told him I would think about it and get back to him. Perhaps the coach was right because I told my husband if I saw her I could pull her aside and go off on her and he knows it. He said If he was seeing her still he wouldn't have told me all this. Could be right. I am not getting contacts to please him. I know it would make no difference.
Snodderly, he doesn't know what he wants and it seems he can't give me what I want because he says he still goes through numb feelings. Therefore I need to do as everyone advises and create distance and detach but be polite. Hard sometimes to detach. I am in the process of finding a job to get me out as well.
