Rachael, I want to share something w/you about changes. When my xh was living at home the last 7 months of his being under our roof, he would mention various things that he wanted me to change. Here's one that I still laugh about today. He wanted me to be at the door and wave to him as he left for work. As he walked by me, he wanted me to give him a little peck on the check. This was to be done every morning he was leaving for work. He left for work at 5:00 a.m. every other day and this included weekends. So, not knowing what the h@ck I was dealing with. I did it. This pretzeling last exactly 3 days and he completely ignored the changes I had made for him. He moved on to other things.
His final weekend at home, he stated several times that nothing had changed and when I asked him what he wanted changed, he couldn't tell me. It's about them and what they are going through. They are the ones changing ever 10 seconds and we could pretzel all night long and it will never be enough or they'll come up w/something new. It is important that YOU are happy with YOU. Don't make changes unless you know that they are ones that YOU really need to make.
On another note, you need to start a new thread. I believe you've gone over the 100 posting mark for this one and someone will be along to remind you soon.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
