I appreciate all the support. It really helps coming home to read this thread and share my problems. I hope when I settle in a bit, I can share my experiences towards other peoples situations.
I have a phone coaching session this morning, and boy do I need it. I have to say, since waking up at 2am to start my day (That's normal during this, right?) I have been feeling pretty pessimistic about our chances of reconciling. It just seems like the problems have been ongoing for too long, and my wife's conviction to get on with her life is much too strong. I just didn't realize it, and I am blaming myself for that. I've been reading though lots of threads and it seems like these things almost never straighten back out once they reach the point of separation. I would be lying if I said I wasn't discouraged, but I am going to keep up the fight. Looking for some motivation from my phone coaching today
In regards to my 180. I have been struggling with a couple things. I realize that I need to basically reverse my previous actions, which raises a problem. I didn't validate her much, if any. I also have been keeping my distance and not talking to her that much, for a long time. How do I address those things while still staying my distance and not sounding like I am pursuing her?
