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[someguy1233]

Very rough night.
Sos, I got the book last night. I decided to break into my emergency cash fund I keep. I told my wife I was going to get some self help and asked if she could watch the kids.
She asked what that meant but then I remember that you shouldn't tell her about DB and be mysterious so I just walked out the door. Score one for me!

Don't be rude. You can tell her your reading a book. Or taking some time to clear your head.

After the game ended I went up to the bedroom to talk to her about things, but it somehow evolved into a relationship talk. She said that she was sorry for calling me fat and ugly, but that I did need to loose weight to be a healthier example to our kids. I said "we both could do better in that department." the Wife then said all the ways I was a bad husband and father.

Why did you spin this comment around on her? You should have told her you understood and that your weight it something you're interested in working on. Don't make her feel bad about herself because she hurt you.

She also said that she wants us to live separate lives for now but that divorce is not off the table. I then started crying and asking what does that mean. She only said "What do you think?" I asked her if it meant that we couldn't have sex. She angrily glared at me and started to get mean again. She called me a baby, told me to man up and said I should leave the room now. I told her that I was the man of the house and she should leave the master bedroom if she didn't like it. She then threatened to call her dad (our landlord) I backed down pretty quickly and slept in the pull-out in the office.

Stop bringing up sex. You're not getting it. Stop. stop. stop.

Then this morning before work say said that she was sorry, but that I needed to really listen to her now. I was so happy she apologize and tired to give her a make up hug. She let me, but didn't hug back. Baby steps right?

That's not a baby step. Just because she let you hug her it's not a good thing. She didn't hug you back. The hug was unwelcome. Stop making physical contact with her until she initiates.

I also decided to take a leap and ask her about Marriage Counseling. i know it might be early, but I told her that it wasn't to save our marriage, but to be better communicators with each other. She didn't say no. I figured that was okay under DB because it wasn't to save the marriage.

Stop. She's not in a frame of mind that will make MC beneficial.