I had pretty well decided that she was done with us and what was left of my meager hope of reconciliation was about to be taken off of life support. And now I find out that while she seemed so sure and confident of her decision to end our M and so happy to be on her own, it was all just a facade concealing turmoil and confusion within. I had all but convinced myself I was ready to move on, so this has put me into an emotional spin.
I think the important lesson here for all of us LBS's is that no matter what the WAS says, no matter what they do, there is always a bit of ambivalence in their mind. It's just not that easy to make the decision to end a marriage, especially when the LBS is doing such a fine job of DB.
To me, this means time is on the side of those who hope to reconcile. Anything that buys the marriage more time is a good thing.
I'm happy to hear you decided to give it more time, AS. Bust On!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
