Very rough night. Sos, I got the book last night. I decided to break into my emergency cash fund I keep. I told my wife I was going to get some self help and asked if she could watch the kids. She asked what that meant but then I remember that you shouldn't tell her about DB and be mysterious so I just walked out the door. Score one for me!
I got the book, but when I got home I was too tired to read it so I just watched the Falcons- Saints game. My wife was upstairs doing something...probably sexting her new boyfriend for all I know.
After the game ended I went up to the bedroom to talk to her about things, but it somehow evolved into a relationship talk. She said that she was sorry for calling me fat and ugly, but that I did need to loose weight to be a healthier example to our kids. I said "we both could do better in that department." the Wife then said all the ways I was a bad husband and father. She also said that she wants us to live separate lives for now but that divorce is not off the table. I then started crying and asking what does that mean. She only said "What do you think?" I asked her if it meant that we couldn't have sex. She angrily glared at me and started to get mean again. She called me a baby, told me to man up and said I should leave the room now. I told her that I was the man of the house and she should leave the master bedroom if she didn't like it. She then threatened to call her dad (our landlord) I backed down pretty quickly and slept in the pull-out in the office.
Then this morning before work say said that she was sorry, but that I needed to really listen to her now. I was so happy she apologize and tired to give her a make up hug. She let me, but didn't hug back. Baby steps right?
I also decided to take a leap and ask her about Marriage Counseling. i know it might be early, but I told her that it wasn't to save our marriage, but to be better communicators with each other. She didn't say no. I figured that was okay under DB because it wasn't to save the marriage.
