MLC w/Depression...withdrawing!

[albamarie]

My H tried to give me an earful about ''his'' take on life. I told him "I understand this is very real to you and that you believe your doing the best things in life to get you through, but I will not be a part of it nor will I tolerate your new drinking, or you continued friendship w/ea".

He said stop me, kick me out then, I was ready to go the one time you actually did.

I said, no you laughed, sat on the bed and tried to get me to hug you. He said, it was me having feelings for you because I knew you really didn't want me to leave.

I said nothing more about that, but proceeded to say I am done, done, and will not start over again now w/drinking done with it all. He tried to get snippy and say well I could live my whole life not talking to you if it means I can't talk to ea.

I told him "fine you've been at it so long you must be right, ok if it get this crap out of my life, that's your choice".

He said he's like at the first yr college stage, from having revisited all his childhood so far. That would be when he started drinking, met a girl that took really bad advantage of him, and he met the church!

So that explains the drinking, but he's driving through the city, pulling out money for ea (just like college, he paid a girls rent, she was sleeping w/not H, she crashed his car, and he was a virgin pouring his heart to her).

Next in his life's past is the beginning of his dedication to church were he met a spiritual father who loved him.

I was as adamant as him, no drinking & driving, not money for ea, I don't care about her poverty, she is nothing to this family, he said she's his friend, I said no, there are consequence to these real grown-up actions your 52yr old, family life cannot except.

So how did I do...any thoughts out there! I am not getting much feed back at all. I read alot of others feedback w/similar sitch, try to leave a line or two. I read this is a stage were what I say is most crucial, but I can't have him drunk driving? God forbid he kills someone!