but she holds anything negative to heart for a very long time. She still brings up an email I wrote her during a fight in 2007.
Talk about bringing up old things, during one of our earlier arguments after she dropped the bomb she brought up something I did in college (in 1993). I was in shock and told her I had no idea what she was talking about. I couldn't believe she held something that long. I then went a little too far and apologized for crapping in my diaper when I was a baby and said I hoped she wouldn't use that against me in a future argument... I've since learned to just deal with these type of things. My response would be different now thanks to these forums.
I had to smile when I read this because if you read many threads written by women, you see "he can't remember the kid's schedule"..."birthday"..."doctor's appt"..."he says he'll do [whatever] and then forgets", etc.
The male and female brains are different; it's just a part of the package. I think understanding that can go along way to not taking such offense at it. It is what it is.
So what can you do when those things come up? How about say something like: "You've mentioned that in the past so I know it was important to you. I apologize, I was wrong."
If she brings it up again say, "I know and I have apologized."
Do you find that it's unresolved issues that you keep hearing about? Or things are repeated?
Don't read only men's threads. You are married to women so reading those threads might give you an insight you won't get anywhere else.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
