Hi Accuray, thank you, I appreciate those suggestions. I think you're right in that the doing nothing is probably best. Although I haven't put any verbal pressure on him aside from the other night asking what he was doing, I can see that it wasn't my best idea!
Today was actually good - last night we hung out and watched movies, and it felt like we were on a date getting to know each other again. We were both joking a little and kept it light, but there was a small sense of ("this is still weird") at the same time. Still, I felt like it was better to have a positive interaction and not know what the hell was going on in his head, than no interaction (or a negative one) and not know the same. At some point, I got tired and before asking him to sleep in the bed but not knowing if he were anywhere near wanting to or ready to do that, I said a quick good night babe, and it was lights out. Someone here wisely recommended letting him decide that on his own - it was after all his decision to not sleep in it!
This a.m. I asked if he wanted to come for a walk w our dogs, not expecting anything either way - and he came with us and it was great. No hand holding like we used to, but I really wasn't reading into it too much. I just enjoyed it for what it was - and I felt like it really gave me another opportunity to show him that I was ok and not angry, upset or holding any grudges. This afternoon he made me a really nice lunch and then cleaned the kitchen, (I tried to!). For a flash I thought maybe he was doing it all out of guilt but put a big stop on that and went back to being really grateful and thanked him again...and in the meantime, still GAL, filling up my weekends with friends and activities and working on me in all ways.
