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[Big Bruce]

Bonsoir,
Well, this email is, in a sense, the evidence of my failure. A failure which consequnces makes my life really not enjoyable anymore, if worth living at all. Thus why I was reluctant in exposing the whole world what is so intimately painful in my innermost being.

Yes, I have a lawyer, and it looks like in my province, like almost anywhere, since I am a "normal" person, I should be getting the shared custody.

I have to explain though, that I had the intention of filing for shared custody, but my wife, feeling threatened to lose her precious full custody, beat me to the clock, and filed first!. She went to her L, file for 100% custody, proposing to allow me visits, (as if), and asking for D in the same petition.
I, in return, filed for a counter-petition which is only a legal response to her filing first.

Her L must have received it on Monday, but my L went on vacation this week. Upon reception, the two L are supposed to have a little chat, if I understood well. I'm hoping that, seen the extravangacy of her request and my refusal and my 50% proposition, her L will be sensible enough to convince her that it is not worth pursuing the 100% custody petition.

In case she is still unreasonnable and still wants to fight my request, we will have to fill a notice of motions, which means basically asking for a trial. But it won't make her win time because in the meantime, I can ask for immediate relief, which means 50% of time with my son.

Is it well explained, Mrs. Lawyeress ? (or isn't it the same procedure everywhere?)

Anyway, so far, no reaction on their part that I know of. I asked to postpone today's visit because I have my work Christmas reception today (which she refused to join, understandably). And she asked if we could postpone the visit to Saturday instead of tomorrow. So, it's as if nothing changed, we're still planning/postponing visits.
No email, no phone call, no mention of the legal process going on in parallel.
If she doesn't bring it up, I won't either. As it has been suggested, I will let her associate the ugly part of paying her L and "losing" the legal battle over our son, by herself.

I, will dissociate from it all. First, because I've only been involved because of her refusal to give our son up. She has to cut the umbilical cord with young Bruce. I don't want to be associated with the negative feelings she will have about spending the money and "being wrong".

I am after all, a truly concerned father, who is only asking to help raise his son, whom I love and care for.

Later maybe, if things are not reconciled between us still, I will ask her help for little Brucie, maybe call to ask advice, invite her to join in an activity we'll be participating in (kid museum, pet store, fun house, swimming pool, etc...) in the view of showing that indeed, I am a family man big time.

All her reasons to separate have dissolved : 1.I'm here and not complaining. 2. I am not spending the money on anything. 3. I'm asking and acting to have more time with my son (and her).
Talk about 180 degree, this is a Pi radian turn !