He really does have issues, doesn't he? If your doctor has advised getting contacts, then listen to your doctor. Your h sounds like he's trying to "change" you. I wonder if the person he's interested in wears contacts or maybe doesn't wear them and he's trying to "model" you into a copycat version of her.
You do realize that he's most likely going to continue to want to change you into his dream woman. You'll eventually get tired of being pretezled by him and he still won't be happy w/the new and improved woman he's made you into.
You have to be the one to determine if you are willing to allow him to hold you. I, personally, wouldn't allow it, especially if he's been acting like a total @ss towards me and treating me like a possession and not a human being. You deserve better than the crumbs he tosses you when he wants you to hold him and reassure him w/your hugs, etc.
One of the ways to get your self respect back is to set boundaries and those boundaries should include what type of behavior you will or will not allow and you need to stick w/them no matter what type of crap he throws at you. You deserve to be treated better than the way he's been treating you.
He's definitely got something going on w/that passive aggressive behavior and the temper tantrums. He may be having some real issues emotionally and can't control that anger. Guilt must be eating him up and yes, mlcers can get really nasty. I worry about you being around him when he's that way.
Take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
