MLC, affair, internet pictures, we're a mess

[cantslowdown]

Neither of us even acknowledged our anniversary when it passed. On one hand she was out of town on business. on the other hand, we "liked" it when others wished it to us on Facebook, but not a word has actually been spoken about it between us.

The closest reference was last week when we were talking about gifts for the kids she said, "so I guess we're not getting each other anything." To which I replied, "we don't need any stuff its about the family being together and being able to visit extended family."

I don't know if any of this was right or wrong. Has anyone been in a similar situation? I didn't acknowledge the anniversary because I have been receiving the brunt of an assault that said we are only married because she hasn't left yet. Perhaps it was bad advice I followed, but I also felt like I would be begging for the marriage if I had done something.

Should I hold and not get any Christmas gifts? not even a stocking stuffer from Santa? I love the holidays, but I have always been a little less excited about the gifts. I never felt like what I got for her was what she really wanted to receive from me. I can't say for sure what it was she needed/wanted, but I was missing the mark and spending too much doing so.

How are others handling the holidays and anniversaries? I did get her a small birthday gift and a card. She didn't even get me a birthday card or write me a birthday note. I guess you could say she got me a gift "with the kids" but the card form them didn't have her name on it.