Do I Have a Chance?

[kat727]

My sweet D14 wears her heart on her sleeve, alot like me in that regard. We were watching a show with a counselor that was trying to help a couple that was on their second marriages deal with each other but also their blended family. D14 says to me, "We need to do that with Dad." I asked if she didn't feel that she could talk to him. She said that she could but that he doesn't listen. Only hears what he wants to. So I suggested that she write him a letter explaining what is going on or how she feels. She wasn't sure that would work either as he would probably just toss it after he read it over once but not really get what she meant.

I told her that i thought it was worth a try either way. So she took to Facebook and wrote a short story about a little girl that felt protected while her family was together. Then her Dad left and went off to raise some other kids and her world fell apart. This little girl plasters a smile on her face to hide her true feelings. It was heart wrenching to read. Her dad responded with, "Thanks. I hope you will keep talking. ". Yes seriously a smilie face. The man hasn't a clue when it comes to his own kids.

For what it is worth, S20 doesn't have much to do with him. He is angry with him and doesn't really get into it with him. S17 is kind of over it but doesn't talk about it. Says his Dad wants to be a buddy, not a parent. Says he doesn't need him for that, he has me. Afterall I am only missing an appendage. As for D12, she loves her Mommy but misses her Daddy.

Oh and we have been divorced just under 4.5 years. As for them as a couple, they tried to act like they didn't have an affair and that they had just met sort of thing. He moved in with her after a year and they got married on 10/10/10. Her kids do not know that their mom cheated on their dad. More secrets to hide.

kat