Since he did this before, it would have been good to break the cycle and say something like "No, first we need to work on some issues and boundaries with the help of a MC, then we can talk about you moving back in." He is NOT committed to your M yet. Moving out was his decision, but letting him back in is YOUR decision.
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So I'm thinking that maybe he's "seen the light" but its kind of the same attitude as last week. He's very to himself and not talking very much about anything. Its like we are just going on with our lives while he lives there.
It sounds like he's just looking for a place to bunk.
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1. Is he home to work on things? 2. Is he back and trying to work things out with OW again? She's the one who threw him out. 3. Do I confront all of this or just use my DB skills and go about my life?
I would just ask him question 1. If he's not there to work on things then lay out some boundaries for him whatever they may be, such as not dating while he lives there, how much he's going to pay for bills and such, how much notice you want before he moves out, etc. If he is there to work on things that outline what that means to you- MC, etc.
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I don't feel comfortable just letting him be in the house that he was away from for 6 months.
Absolutely valid concerns.
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I know he wants me to initiate lovemaking and be a wife but I need to know that this is going somewhere positive.
I agree with Cadet, treat it like you're getting to know each other if he's there to work on things. Go out on dates to start with. If he's not there to work on things that set a firm boundary of NO sex.
