I swear I am having a nervous breakdown today for some reason. oH yeah...she's messing with someone else. .

Frist of first, I can't get the book now because my wife hasn't given me my spending $$ yet after I gave her my check. Should I go ask her for it or should I just let it be for a while. I want to tell her it's for something important to our marriage but she might quiz me. I was also thinking of getting her a little love locket to remind her of the good times.

I really need to clarify my almost affair. It was mostly innocent. I did get carried away with the letter and the poem, but again they weren't given to my woman friend. it was to get those feelings out and not let them grow inside of me. My councilor at the time suggested this. My only mistake was not burning them once they were out. I think my wife should forgive me on this point though because it could have been worse. But I have owned up to that mistake and have begged for her to forgive.

Not snooping on the computer is so hard. You guys have no idea. I just want to go through every email and find the secret accounts she has. I just want this to end.

I ended up emailing her today a couple of times. The first was to check in to see how she was doing. The second time I apologized for waking her up for sex. I suggested in the email that we take a 3 month break from sex to get our heads on straite. The one website suggest that for a man to take back his sexuality he do this periodically in his marriage. It is also a 180 for me.

She hasn't responded

It's not that i don't understand the principles of db, it's just that i'm confused by what is DB and what isn't. I read like 6 books on marriage and get confused as to what applies to what.That's why I needed help in the first place.

So far, I got that I shouldn't confront my wife or buddy about their affair. Check
I shouldn't call my wife names. check
I shouldn't snoop on her or check her clothes. check.

I do love her but she is human at times. She can be moody and can be a B. I don't think she's a B 100% of the time, but aren't we all a little grumpy. I mean she's called me a ahole a lot of times. I'm not allowed to think she's a B???

I promise I will learn once I get the book. Do you think it's too early to suggest marriage counseling or a marriage retreat?