She keeps talking about our relationship in terms of how she is afraid of losing her best friend. Obviously, our relationship is more to me than that so there is no way I can continue to be this way with her, especially if she is with OM.
Originally Posted By: JamesH
And a question too!
At this point, do I continue to be the 'best friend' that she wants or do I cut her off?
I so want to be able to fix our marriage but I have no idea which strategy will best help with that?
This is a great question, and one that I fear I'll eventually be forced to deal with.
I think you want to be friendly, but not be too available or go out of your way to please or help her. Afterall, she dumped you and no longer wants you as H right? As for emotional connection I see a balancing act. If you "cut her off" why would she ever want you back? If you're the best friend, why would she want you as H?
I look forward to hearing other responses to this question.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
