I was running late due to terrible traffic. When I walked in the door, my wife, needing to leave so she wouldnt be late, threw her arms around me and gave me a big hug good-bye. It felt so nice. So much like things used to when we were happy.
Wow, that's awesome! I thought you were going to say that she yelled at you for being late!
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But if she asked me back tomorrow, I don't think I would go. I'm enjoying this time to focus on myself and my growth. I would go on a date with her, but not jump back in.
GOOD!!! You totally get it!
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I figure if I have a chance at saving this marriage, I have only one chance. And I'm not going to screw that up.
I would just caution that sometimes people will look at it like this, and then if they have a backslide they think "well that's it, I screwed up my only chance." But DB'ing is about making adjustments and monitoring them. Sometimes it can be a backslide, but that doesn't mean it's over, it just means we have to make another adjustment and continue DB'ing. Don't look at it as a single chance so much as a process with lots of little ups and downs along the way.
