I am 1000% intent on keeping my marriage intact. I don't want to play games I just want to be honest and loving with her in the way she deserves.
I think you are wrong Mister bond about the test thing. I did some research before I did it and accord to an article on Huffingtonpost, it is totally legal to do and I can use the evidence in court. I am not a dummy. I would never do anything illegal here so lets calm down on that a bit. but your point is taken and i threw away the rest of the kit last night I hope my wife doesn't go through the garbage and find it. That would be bad.
I want to expose the affair so badly because I feel it in my gut that it will snap her back to reality. I can't be wrong on this can I? I'm starting to question myself.
Whys is everyone telling me to read the book. I did read the book, twice and took notes. I am in the process of getting the notes back from my wife as I think she had them and is using them against me. I can't go out and by the book when I'm watching my kids!!!!! I also read about 6 other books so I get confused on who said what. It seems that there are so many different ideas out there.
i never posted about my almost affair because it wasn't an affair. I didn't do anything physical, I just had a crush on my co-worker. We'd spend a lot of time at work and going to lunch. My co-worker saw me as only a friend. We'd talk about how bad our relationships were and we hugged a couple of times - no biggie. We were both intent on keeping our relationships together we we like the support from each other. She wasn't my type really. However, i did breakdown and write her a love poem and a letter. I just had to get it out of my system. I had no intent on sending it to her ever. But my wife found it and then it went to pot.
My wife thinks I'm still snooping and that is why shoe put a new code on the computer. She says that I haven't earned her trust yet, but I figured work around. I messed up and looked at her email last night. No evidence...yet.
I decided to hold of on talking to to the OM for now. but I've known him longer than my wife so I will have to do something.
my 180s - I've stop being super critical of her and i always say please and thank you to her even when she's being a major B. I did a handful of sit-ups last night...on my way. I told my W I called the doctor to talk about the extra weight I have. I still need to actually call him. The problem is that she always used to like me being a little chunky. she said it made her feel safe. I can't lose the weight overnight. I haven't called her any names in about a month. I didn't say anything negative about my paycheck and just handed it to her. I'm still waiting for my spending $$ today. i told her I would move to the inlay apt without a fuss. Normally, I'd get really mad. so that's a +.
Last night she came home and I wanted to ask her about the DB notebook I had. I was pretty mad that she took it, but I kept it together.
She went to change in the bedroom and I immediately followed her to the bedroom. She closed the door, but I counted to 10 and opened it and said I wanted to talk about us. She was in the middle of changing out of her work clothes. First she was mad I barge in, then she told me we could talk later, but she wanted a few minutes to decompress. I pressed the issue. I mean according to everyone here I needed to get those notes to start working on DB. I asked her about the notebook. She claimed she didn't know. right.
Then she looked down and looked sad. I sat on the bed next to her. I told her I love her, I was sorry about us, I would do better in every way and be more like the OM if that's what she wanted. I told here I was reading some marriage books to be a better husband. I then asked if we could be intimate that night. She didn't say no. So I hung around the bedroom and she just sat there. Finally, I left to go get the kfc for dinner. I took the kids with me to give her a brake.
She feel asleep after putting the kids to bed. When I went to bed, I went to wake her to be intimate like she promised. I shook her a couple times. But she was pretty tired so I dropped it. that's another 180 too.
