Well she moved out about 30 minutes ago. It's my fault, no matter how hard I tried I couldn't stop myself from talking R and trying to get a commitment from her to fix this. Hopefully with her out of the house I can relax and work on me and still fix the marriage.
Sorry guys, I tried to follow your advice. I feel like I let you, me and my daughter down.
She didn't move out because of anything you did or said right then and there. She's likely been planning it for months. You couldn't have stopped her, it was inevitable. You did not let anyone down, especially your daughter. If anyone let her down, it was your W.
Now, take a deep breath. Calm yourself. Look at this as giving your W the space and time that she needs to sort through her thoughts. It may be the best thing that could have happened to start rebuilding the M. Go back to DB'ing basics. This is the time to work on yourself, evaluate your contribution to the M falling apart, do 180's on those things, GAL, work on your PMA. Give yourself time to adjust, it's a big shock to wake up alone each morning but you'll adjust pretty quickly. Once you get settled into your routine I think you'll find it's actually easier to deal with your sitch when W isn't around all the time. That's how it went for me. You'll be fine, you can do this! You're about to learn just how strong and independent you really can be!
