1) Actively listening and taking a more genuine interest in her day and experiences. (The OM is basically a therapist, trained listener! - He is also 55 which really bothers me!!)
2) Making effort to spend some alone time with her - usually early morning before kids get up - just some general talking time
3) Getting myself in better shape - already down to 165lbs from 180lbs
4) Being more socially active (without her at this point)
5) More excercsing
6) New clothes, shoes etc. Generally smartening myself up.
7) Being more tolerant around the 3 kids even with some of the crazy behaviour they exhibit from time to time lol!
The hardest thing has been hearing her tell me about the feelings she has for OM. It literally feels awful.
She has sent so many mixed signals though its very hard to know what is going on in her mind.
I think she looks at me right now and is angry because of some of the things I did. I forgot to mention that I called the OM's wife and told her exactly what was happening. That didnt go down to well...............
I guess the motto of 'believe nothing of what she says and only half of what she does' is totally true because I cant make any sense of any of her actions right now!
