You will both get equal time with the kids unless she can prove that you are an unfit father....so don't let her pull that on you...which looks like she is...it is 2012 not 1994....the courts are different now... If you don't stand up to her she will not respect you and you will not be moving forward at all...if she wants to be with other man than she needs to move out of the house and be with him! What if it was the other way around? and you had a young girlfriend that you did not want to leave? Would you expect to stay in the house etc...no you would not,.,, the court will not look kindly at her actions keep all records that you can...just in case...you don't need to support her don't make any promises right now..you are too emotional and need to get control and strong...I think you should tell her to move out and stay away from her as much as possible no R talk! There will be a time for that when you have detached....right now she is detached from you and she has about a year into it than you...you are at an extreme disadvantage when you are negotiating with her....take time....take time for yourself....you are worth just as much as her...I know this is hard but you need to focus on yourself and the kids...all that energy that you are putting on her put on yourself....
