Wow. I know I could not put up with that. I certainly don't know what to say because I could very well be in the same boat soon. I agree with AS about the 5LL and I intend to go out and get that. Have you tried calling a DB coach? At least you would know how to handle OW. It does sound like you let him back too soon and now I know what you were saying when you replied to me on my sitch.

I would like to know from someone who has been doing this a while are you better showing the love in this case or doing the "she's gone or you're gone" approach. I for one know that I can't live with someone that is carrying on with OW. I know that they say they don't need OW if you're giving them the love they need, but it almost sounds like he's playing both of you. When he argues with her he's nice to you, when you two argue he runs to her.

M 48 H 50
M 25 T 27
D 20,18,15
6/11 H filed
3/12 H dropped
4/12 H moved out