Rachael, One of the things that I see here that he doesn't respect you or your capabilities. You have to change the way you interact w/him. First, don't beg for affection or his attention. Go about your business and just leave him alone. Second, this is going to be the hardest one for you...when he comes to you all anxious, etc., tell him you are sorry he feels that way and go on about your business. He needs to learn that you have needs as well and it is a two way street. Take back you respect. You are not a possession that he takes out and gives attention only when he feels that he needs a fix.
As you continue to make repairs, do not allow him to bring you down. You are accomplishing things that he should have done or be doing. For whatever reason, he is withholding himself from you and punishing you for some wrong that he thinks you have done. Is he passive-aggressive?
Continue to distance yourself from him and make a life for yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
