Its hard not to have expectations. In the evenings when I'm home I keep expecting that he's going to stop in ( which he does sometimes) .Then when he doesn't I get upset. Same as weekends, I expect him to be here with me , Saturday night used to be our " date " night, and Sundays were family days, now most Saturdays I sit home alone. Sunday mornings he comes for breakfaast then most times don't see him until Monday morning for breakfast. I ask no questions about his weekend and pretend that this is normal, very hard not to know what is going on ! Im tired of just being a "friend"
So he lives elsewhere, but he just drops by unexpectedly and then he comes by every Sunday and Monday for breakfast? How odd! What are your interactions like when he comes by? Do you ever argue, or is it pretty pleasant? You mentioned he moved out 14 months ago, that's a long time. I'm assuming you've been doing more or less the same thing in that time and nothing has changed. Per DR you have to take stock of your progress now and then, and if there isn't any progress then change something up. If you're tired of being friends then it might be time to tell H you don't want him dropping by unannounced anymore. A lot of the old timers here will tell you that your spouse needs to learn to miss you before they'll think about returning, but if you see them all the time they never learn to miss you. If H can drop by whenever he wants and comes by frequently for breakfast, then he won't miss you because he knows you're always available. Think about changing that up. Maybe your H thinks that because you're 65 that friendship is enough. But clearly that's not working for you. You still have emotional needs and probably physical too. And there are other potential mates out there. Maybe you should seriously think about moving on. If you do, do it for yourself, but know that it's often when the LBS moves on that the WAS suddenly becomes interested again.
Originally Posted By: Sad and alone
Had a good weekend GAL ing.was very busy,have another busy week coming up taking grandchildren to activities,also lots of my own activities.h still coming for breakfast.
That's great that you're staying busy, keep it up! Show H that you're moving on with life whether he joins you or not!
Originally Posted By: Sad and alone
How the heck do you ever get 100posts? I can't talk that much?
To get off moderation you mean? You don't need 100 posts, just keep actively posting and the mod's will take care of it when they're comfortable that you're not spamming (which you're clearly not).
